Thursday, January 20, 2011

Closing Cycles by Paulo Coelho

Thanks Je for sending this. This is such a good read. Hit me right smack in the face.

Closing Cycles by Paulo Coelho

(Best-selling writer of "The Alchemist" )

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.

Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished. Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents' house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?

You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won't take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.

But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed will not return: we cannot forever be children, late adolescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of coming back.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away. That is why it is so important (however painful it maybe!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home. Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.

Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the ideal moment. Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person. Nothing is irreplaceable. A habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.

4 comment(s):

mazel said...

Very nice read indeed. I've heard this "Closing Cycles" by Paulo Coelho a lot of times, but I've never really read it. Thanks for this post!

I can relate to this as well. There was this thing that happened about 1.5 years ago in our group. We've been hurt, and some people left. And though it's been more than a year since it happened, people are still hurting, including me. We can't even sing some Church songs without being reminded of what had happened.

I guess this article of Coelho is reminding us that we should really move forward. Accept what had happened in the past, forgive yourself (if you need to), pick up the pieces, and then move on.

Sorry, medyo mahaba na yung comment ko, but I'd also like to share something. This is the prayer written in a card (Prayers & Promises) that's posted on my cubicle wall:
"Lord, let me not dwell on the past, as though it held the best. May I dare to believe that the best is yet to be, and that though you are filling my life with rain of tears, everyone of them will one day yield the wine of joy."

Osy said...

thanks pare! will kwento soon bakit ako nakarelate dito.. ang ganda ng prayer, post ko rin yan sa workstation ko. The best is yet to come..

meanwhile.. regalo ko!!! hehehe

sam =) said...

wow! super late comment!
your article cuts right through me... haha!

it's always difficult to let go but as we all know, no matter how painful it may seem, it always is the best thing to do. :)

JAE said...

@sam, super sapol no? hehe

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